Hey you guys! What’s going on? How’s life? Sorry if these questions sound cliche to you, it’s not like I ask these questions to have something to start a conversation with but I genuinely genuinely want to know how is the life of the one who reads me out going? Are they able to stand to my words or to their own beliefs for that matter? I am keen to solve or at least help you guys to solve your problems some way, whatever I can, that’s that.
I hope you all are living through this life and not just breathing. And me? Well, I live, I always do and I always will.
So dragging in the topic I choose for today. I have personally been adored, hated and what not for the self love I possess. And the love, the hate, anything and everything never literally makes me feel overwhelmed or offended. Because self love to me now, is as natural as the love which fills my heart when I see a smiling toddler. Of course it did take me my time, my own sweet time to be this way, to love myself beyond boundaries, but I am still falling for every shade of me, correcting my mistakes, learning new things about the person inside me and getting inspired by myself. I am still in the phase of making supreme love to the person I am, maybe I am on some stage higher but it’s a lifetime process and that’s what I have learnt so far.
Do you want to love the person inside you too? I know you want to, but let’s just take a moment to see the signs that you currently might not be loving yourself enough. Let’s see how?
- You get offended easily. Even with the not-so-harsh words by others.
- Opinions of others matter a lot to you and many times you do prioritize their opinions while making some important decisions.
- You hesitate to speak your heart out often. ( Cause you deny to accept your inner voice, often considering it’s wrong and not worthy.)
- You seek approvals quite intensely. ( You want your work to be approved by others and that feeling is way too huge, you lack love for yourself and the confidence that you are good enough.)
- You get demotivated rather quickly than you feel motivated. ( Do I need to say something else?)
Ask yourself these questions and decide it yourself that, Do you really love yourself enough?
Now, let’s move on to how to start loving your own being, how to fall in love with your own existence. I have again kinda sorted this out for our sake to understand. These are not the “Ideal Steps“.
Self love is the process which comes customized for all of us.
But still let’s see how it worked for me, and I hope it works for you too.
1. Explore yourself / Your strengths and weaknesses.
Whenever you are able to take out an hour or two in a day for yourself, do whatever you want ( Except just scrolling through your Instagram feed). Try to be creative, try to give wings to your imagination and let your imagination come out of your mind on paper in living form. Explore yourself. Find your strengths and weaknesses.
Also, A weakness known, can always be turned into strength, always.
Accept what you are weak in and work on it. It helps you know more about yourself, and eventually implant the seeds of self love inside you. It works. Definitely.
2. Make at least one thing special about you.
You do many things, you belong to this generation of multitasking, you know so much and yet so little about a single thing. It’s not worth. There must be your special sector, your personalised area of something you love to do, your passion, your work that is good on professional level.
Being extraordinarily good in something just boosts your confidence to the next level.
Work for it and make it happen, make at least one thing so special about you that when it comes to that sector, at least the people around would no doubt be rushing towards you for help and opinions. And this thing has so much to do with confidence and ultimately, self love. Yes, when people consider you worthy of taking opinions from, that means they trust you, your work and your talent. That simply means you have something to look up to and you are worth. Make this a point to love what you are doing and who you are, even more.
3. Consume good food, good thoughts, good music.
There is so much, both good and bad to consume in this void of internet. Yes, there is so much information, so much content floating out there. We might not always be able to figure out what is good and helpful for us and what isn’t.
Having an internet smart mind in this world of high technology and always upgrading knowledge is such a basic thing.
So basically my point is that we should be smart enough to take what’s good and best for us from this everlasting series of information and knowledge. Think twice before you click to open any random link, think if the tagline is worth investing your time or it just demands your attention for nothing good.
Think twice before you click.
On the other hand, be generous enough to consume what’s good, follow the motivational pages, read often, listen to good music and eat healthy. These minute things should never be taken undervalued, they have such huge impact on our lives. Here is the link of one such page you might just need –
Never underestimate the power of some good quote you randomly read. It can be a game changer at times.
Also, that good consumption has so much to do with the good vibe you feel, the good things that happen to you, the positivity you build, the self love you grow inside you. Consume all the good and see how it helps you to love yourself.
4. Be true to yourself.
This is basic, very basic step which is ignored by 90% of us. Ask yourself, Are you able to speak the truth at least to yourself? Are you strong enough to accept your flaws without hesitation standing in front of a mirror? Tell me, how many of you can actually accept the mistakes you did in the past in front of your ownself?
Well, sometimes being true to yourself, your own feeligs is all the empowerment, all the motivation you need.
Often communicate with yourself. Try seeking opinions from inside, after all you know yourself the best. You know what’s best for you and what is not meant for you. You know right?
Try to be your own expert opinion.
And this is how you will be able to cross the major milestone of self love.
When you are able to listen to your inner voices, be honest to them, you have certainly learnt how to believe your own beliefs.
And where there is trust, there is love, there is respect. So learn to be true to yourself and simultaneously you will expertise in loving yourself.
5. Surround yourself with the dreamers, the doers, the lovers and the enthusiasts.
Yes, you heard me right.
The dreamers because none other than these people are able to show you how to spread your wings when others think you don’t even have wings. They have least to do with what others think, what others do, they have their own world of dreams to look up to, so far from all the negativity in this world. They inspire you to think beyond.
The doers because they work so hard that there is no room for the fear of failures, they believe that their success can’t always run away from their hard work. They work for themselves and not for the world to see. They inspire you to do so much with such Passion.
The lovers because they are the true preserved essence of selflessness. You can learn so much about love and self love from the way they see the world. The way they live and love has such fragrance of purity and empathy. Such love filled hearts, and such strong positive vibes. They inspire you to be good to yourself, to be good to everyone else.
And finally, the enthusiasts because their vibe is so positive and so contagious that you immediately feel so motivated to do everything and all. Around them, you feel there’s nothing that’s impossible for you. They have such strong control over your hormones to make you dance on their rhythms in a very positive and satisfactory way. They inspire you to always be learning and to be on a go and I told you how important it is in the process of self love.
So, that’s that. This is my version of how to start loving yourself the way you wish to be loved by others.
I hope you like it. I hope I met your expectations and was able to give you something to think upon. Tell me in the comments below what do you feel about this article. I will be coming up next week with another interesting step in being a better version of yourself.
Stay tuned. Keep loving yourself.
See you guys. Till then, take care❤